Are you a true crime junkie? Do you get exhilarated listening to dark tales of conspiracy, or, even darker, murder? Do you secretly wish you could help a grisly old cold case detective digitize his case files?
Just me?
I’m not just a true crime junkie, but a Crime Junkie, with capital letters. .
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A few months ago, I got introduced to a phenomenally produced podcast called Crime Junkie. It is hosted by two smart and funny people named Brit and Ashley. They share stories about true crime with empathy, and they are a credit to their field.
I wanted to share a tool that they talk about semi-regularly on their podcast, geared toward keeping yourself safe. It’s called an If I Go Missing Folder.
What is that exactly?
Stay tuned for more info!
My love of true crime
I have been obsessed with the macabre to some degree since I was about 8. Leaning towards sadder songs and movies, I simply gravitate toward things that tug on my heart strings.
I’ve been fascinated by true crime for as long as I can remember. It probably started in the summer of 1994. OJ Simpson, a renowned athlete and actor, found himself accused of the murder of his ex-wife, Nicole, and her friend, Ronald. My grandmother babysat for us often and I can vividly remember her turning on the TV and diving headfirst into car chases on California highways, crime scene photos, and closing arguments.
Top life dreams of mine?
- Find out if Zodiac was Arthur Leigh Allan
- See Boulder police solve the murder of JonBenet Ramsey.
- Win the lottery
Each one is just as unlikely as the next, with ALA dead and Burke Ramsey continuing his 23 years of silence.
But as a true crime enthusiast, these are questions that keep us up at night.
Link between true crime and mental health
Why do so many people find true crime fascinating? Especially with more and more people coming forward about mental health issues?
Shouldn’t we, as depressed people, be avoiding topics filled with trigger warnings and scary themes?
Speaking for myself primarily, there are a few reasons that people with mental health issues might be interested in true crime, and one reason they should be.
First of all, the true crime world is remarkable in its ability to create community.
It gives the disenfranchised a place to belong.
You don’t have to look a certain way, or have a certain education. We are united in our passion for cold cases, and finding missing persons, and DNA analysis.
Also, true crime gives us perspective.
I live with bipolar disorder and sometimes life can seem especially bleak. I know that is true for many many people.
But, at the risk of sounding glib, I’M NOT CURRENTLY GETTING MURDERED.
Listen. Having depression is hard. But it is a selfish and isolating thing. It causes us to withdraw and imagine that we are living alone on an island of our own sadness, and that no other such island exists.
True crime helps us see the darkness that exists in the world, and gives us a common thread we can use to link ourselves to other people.
Finally, true crime gives you an escape.
With stories that can span decades, there is so much information out that to immerse yourself in.
It is easy to become entangled in these stories, and it allows us to forget about the things in our own lives that haunt us
And, the one reason why we should be interested in true crime? Multiple studies show that those with mental illness are especially vulnerable to violent crimes.
“A 2014 analysis of five American studies of the victimization of “adults with mental illness” included 4,480 individuals. Victimization was defined very broadly to include “slapping” and “pushing, grabbing or shoving” as well as “sexual assault” or “using a weapon.” The 6-month prevalence of having experienced at least one such episode was 31 percent.”
We need to stay educated and be aware that these things happen. And we need to work together to keep the memories alive of past victims that the world works to forget.
Statistics you need to know
In 2018, the number of females missing in the United States that are/were under 21 years of age was 239,847. Over the age of 21, that number was 62,371.
As far as the number of people who were victims of murder, the number is also staggering. In my home state of Illinois in 2017, there were approximately 1,120 homicides.
We often live under the false pretense that these things could not happen to us. They happen to other people, those who live their lives far, far away from us.
So, we can see by these statistics that unfortunately these crimes are very common.
If I Go Missing Folder
Brit and Ashley of Crime Junkie recommend the following tool: an If I Go Missing folder.
This is a secure document that serves as a compilation of your important information. Its purpose is to complete it and share it with a few trusted friends and family members (if you are sharing hard copies, it’s best if the people don’t all live in the same house.)
This allows them to work in conjuction with law enforcement in the event you go missing, and speed along the investigation. Investigations are often halted due to lack of personal information about the victim, or lack of access to records.
This image just includes a very small portion of the kind of info you would need to include. I’m including the full document as a special freebie for new subscribers to my blog (see the form below) Current subscribers can contact me if they would like one.
Recommended reading
These are really great additions to anyone’s true crime library. I just finished John Douglas’ Mindhunter and it was incredible.
Keeping yourself safe
It is vital to do what you can to keep yourself safe. Violent crimes might seem far removed from us, but they happen more often than we think.
They happen pretty often to those who are mentally ill, but they happen to everyone.
It happens to men.
It happens to women.
Crime happens to white people.
It happens to people of color.
Crime happens to Christians.
It happens to atheists.
So, let’s keep ourselves safe. That way, we can get out there and help keep each other safe.
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I enjoy watching crime shows as well. It has been a while since I’ve watched any though. I’ve always been nervous about being caught off guard or someone break into my home. I just chose what I thought was a safe place to live and do what I can to prevent problems before they happen. Last year, I separated from my spouse and being by myself again was a bit scary. I just follow these home safety tips for single moms.
Hey there, that makes me nervous too! The security we got recently makes me feel so much better. Thank for reading!
I absolutely am a huge true crime fan. I am obsessed with documentaries.
Hey Nancy, same! That’s what I love watching after the kids go to bed. Thanks for reading!
At this time of the pandemic we suffer alot from many things around us. Keeping our mind and self safe are the most important thing right now.
Hey Agnes, definitely. A lot of tensions are high so I’m never surprised to see random spikes in crime right now. Take care and thanks for reading!
I find true crime stories really interesting but I get really scared after watching or listening to it. I like the idea of If I go missing folder.
Hey Ruth, I’m mostly desensitized, but sometimes they get to me! If they involve a home invasion, that creeps me out. Thanks for reading!
Thank you for providing the freebie so I can complete my own “If I go missing” sheet
Hey Shelley, no problem! Thanks for reading!
True crime stuff is interesting to me because it shows that most people are victimized by people they know. Then, they find that they knew the person had serious issues and they ignored them. So, I think they teach us a lesson about keeping ourselves realistic about everyone. That to me is the first rule of safety.
Hey Lois, that is very true. You can never ever 100% know a person, no matter how much you think you do. Thanks for reading!
The If I Go Missing folder sounds like something everyone should create.
Hey Beth, I think so too. You really never know! Thanks for reading!
Not just you! I love true crime as well, I secretly wanted to be a detective growing up so I could solve murder cases. But it’s always good to know how to stay safe, you never know what can happen.
Hey Orlie, glad it’s not just me LOL. I’ve always secretly wanted to be a medical examiner! Thanks for reading 🙂
I actually like watching crime shows. It is heartbreaking how those crimes happen and yet interesting to find out how they were solved. And yes, it could happen to anyone. And I am always mindful and doing my best to be safe.
Hey Lynndee, same here! It’s interesting to watch it all come together! Glad you are staying safe. Thanks for reading!
Very interesting read! I am glad that you’re sharing tips to stay safe. It’s true, that things can happen to us. We can’t live in fear, but I believe in living aware that I’m not special and that I am just at risk of having a crime committed as any other human. I do my best to stay safe here.
Hey Brandy, glad you are doing what you can to stay safe! These are weird times, so these tips may sadly become more relevant as time passes. Thanks for reading!
Hands up I love true crime as well – there have been many times I have got lost following the story of another one and I think your right perhaps there is a sense of at least things aren’t this bad.
Hey Sarah, my husband does NOT get it. He’s like, “This is so gruesome. Why do you like this?” I heard on a recent podcast someone saying women are drawn to it because we learn to live in fear more than men do. Thought that was interesting. Thanks for reading!
That sounds like a really interesting podcat. I’ve never thought about putting together a If I Go Missing folder…something to think about!
Hey Talya, I love it! I’m obsessed with going down these true crime rabbit holes in my spare time. Thanks for reading!
I love the idea of the ‘If I Go Missing’ box. That would be so useful to anyone trying to find you. If I go missing it’ll almost certainly be my partner or cat, whichever gets to me first!
I love true crime and I’ve even started writing about some true-crime stories recently for another blog. I find it easier to listen to certain true crime podcasts and youtube channels than others, some are very triggering to me and send me into a panic.
Thank you for the suggestions, I’ll have to go through and listen to/watch some of these shortly 🙂
Thanks for reading! I love crime junkie because they take it very seriously and tell the stories from a place of empathy. They have a very good tone that doesn’t make me feel anxious. But i’m not a trauma survivor so it might be different for someone else
You’ve nailed exactly how I feel about listening to My Favorite Murder. I tend to stay away from other true crime outlets because I have PTSD and need my true crime discussions delivered with kid gloves, but MFM really does give me a mental space to process these safety issues. My ex husband is a horrible scary person, so I’ve often contemplated building an “If I Go Missing” folder. I already have journals I keep periodically for my kids so they will have my words should anything happen to me.
Oh wow! Thanks for sharing your story. Sorry you went through that. Hopefully 2020 is a good year and you don’t have to be afraid!
What a thought-provoking post. I’m a true crime junkie as well so this is interesting to think about. I love the idea of the if I go missing file. Pinned for later, thank you for sharing!
No problem! Glad you found it helpful!
This is really interesting! You know, I have my medical ID on my phone filled out for any medically emergency so in a sense this is just an extension of that isn’t it? And one of never contemplated! Thanks for the post.
That is a good idea! I’m a big true crime podcast listener and they always talk about how these investigations get stalled because cops can’t get into people’s phones or have a hard time getting access to phone records. #takemyinfo. Lol
What a great and informative article! I enjoyed reading this!
Thank you very much!
This is great. I am a huge lover of true crime and will definitely be checking out this podcast – There is something to be said for the opportunity to listen to a good true crime podcast while I’m working away on something monotonous like scheduling social media content that I’ve already created… It makes the day pass a lot faster lol
Lol it definitely does! I agree. I listen to them when I’m driving. For sure, check out crime junkie. They’re amazing!
An interesting idea. The numbers of missing and murdered people shocked me, even though ‘Have You Seen Me’ pictures run in our newspapers. It saddens me to see the faces of young, young girls, or age processed photos of people who went missing twenty years ago.
Preparing a folder would be a big help for family and friends if some of them were not aware of information that has changed.
It really is sad! The info can also help police get access to your phone and bank shit without having to go through a lot of red tape!
What a thought provoking post. A lot to think about and contemplate. Thank you for the insight and information.
Thanks! I appreciate it. Stay safe ✌🏻