Welcome to the latest installment of my interview series! Make sure to go back and follow some of the many inspirational bloggers I have interviewed.
Who are some of your favorite bloggers? I try to follow as many as I can because they have so much wisdom to pass on. (Including bloggers like Keets!)
That’s what gave me the idea for this interview series. I wanted to glean as much knowledge as I could from those much wiser than me.
This is our twenty-ninth installment of my interview series, Meet the Blogger, all about Keets, a fellow blogger. (You can read our previous installment about Dave.)
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Meet the Blogger: Introducing Keets
First of all, tell me a little about yourself.
My name is Nikita and I am a 26 year old Yorkshire gal who likes to be creative in as many ways as possible. I am very passionate about the mental health community and love to help others. I have quite a wild sense of humour and have spent a lot of my life laughing!
The two most important people in my life are my mum and brother. They’ve been there through the good and bad and I honestly couldn’t be more grateful to have them in my life.
The other two crazy little members of my family are my two dogs. I have two Yorkshire Terriers called Max and Billy and despite the fact they are getting older they still act like pups! I don’t think I have ever come across any dog that has such a funny character like these two do – then again…. they do say pets are like their owners!
What is your connection to the blogging and/or mental health community?
From a young age, I have always been a part of the blogging community. The amount of blogs I set up as a child to then forget my password and set up another, or I would have several all about different things. I think my main one as a child was more of a diary as I would write about my entire school day. If you’ve ever read the young teen books by Louise Rennison then you’ll have some idea of how I liked to write my blogs back then.
I never intended to write a blog in which would be thrown into the mental health community, not at all! I set up my OCD blog in 2013 anonymously just so it was a space where I could vent my frustrations, talk about why OCD was horrible for me and the challenges I would face. Honestly, I thought that if anyone like-minded came across it and it was helpful then fair enough, but I didn’t intend on making it “a thing”.
One night I challenged my OCD and wrote about it in my blog – I could even give you the exact date I did this. It is so clear in my mind. Long story short, I challenged my OCD and the next day something terrible happened in my life and I blamed it on myself, the fact that I challenged my OCD. I abandoned the blog because I saw it as bad luck, never to be returned to. Something that I saw initially as helping me I now hated.
Fast forward a few years, a huge opportunity and a documentary later and I returned to the blog ready to take it on. Now here I am, no longer anonymous and writing about mental health and raising awareness for many aspects of it.
What is the hardest part about having a successful blog?
I can imagine having a successful blog is hard work, personally I wouldn’t class my blog as successful but I think that is because I rarely have a schedule of posting dates. I don’t know if anyone else is like this but for me I have to be ‘in that zone’ to feel able to write some of my best posts. I’d much rather wait and write something I’m proud and happy with than a rushed post.
So I have full respect for the bloggers out there who run their blogs like a business because they honestly deserve the success it brings because keeping on top of it and putting content out there at specific times is hard to do!
What is the biggest challenge the mental heath community faces?
One of the biggest challenges that the mental health community face today I would say is reducing the stigma. It seems such a simple thing to do yet there are still so many people out there who are ignorant to how serious mental health can be.
I’ve been called many things such as a ‘snowflake’ when trying to help reduce the stigma because some just do not want to listen, they don’t want to know and that’s really sad. I am all for having a giggle and making light out of situations but there is a correct way to do that and those that do not understand properly do not seem to realise how their jokes can really hurt someone. Mental health is much more talked about nowadays so hopefully in time to come we can get the stigma reduced.
What are 5 things many people do not know about you?
Oooh five things that people do not know about me!
I’d say one of the main things unless they look far back into my blog is not many people know that I was quite close to being on The Apprentice on TV. Huge challenge in many ways and after the process I was involved with then I can safely say a job interview will never phase me again after that haha!
Before being heavily involved with the mental health community I went to university and got a degree in Media.
I have suffered with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder for around 19 years.
I can say the alphabet backwards.
Nobody really knows you online do they? So not many people know that I am tiny!! Haha! My height is 4ft 11. Yep, 26 years old and never quite made it to 5ft.
What is your favorite book and why?
Me Before You by Jojo Moyes is my all time favourite book! Despite the fact it is incredibly sad, it isn’t the usual girl meets boy kind of romance. When reading, I didn’t know what was going to happen from one page to the next and I like that in a book! It was also written so beautiful and descriptive so I could imagine scenes, characters etc. All in all, it was an inspiring and insightful read and I highly recommend it to anyone who hasn’t read it. It was the first book I read that made me want to read more by the same author and now I have several of her books!
What do you do when you are having a really hard day to lift your spirits?
I think we can all get days that we find really hard to keep our spirits up don’t we? Once upon a time I would have said just shut yourself away and do nothing but I have since learnt that is bad. For me, I tell myself that if I don’t get done all what I had planned then that is perfectly okay.
When I’m not feeling myself I cannot bear to listen to any kind of music which I find really odd because I know that is the total opposite of what many people do! So instead I will either have deep chats with my mum, have a good cry or do something I enjoy to boost myself. I started going to the gym this year and if ever I’m having a bad day I have found that a good work out whether it is 30 minutes or an hour has really helped boost my spirit!
What makes a person brave?
What makes a person brave? I would say talking. Talking makes a person brave. When you think about it we can all face our fears and be physically brave but true bravery in my eyes is being able to talk to someone you are comfortable with. Whether that be talking to a friend about what has happened in your day, telling someone how you feel about them or opening up and telling someone you don’t feel great. We talk in our heads constantly so to let it out to someone, even if it’s just to your own reflection you have still let it out and that’s a very brave thing to do.
What 3 words would you use to describe yourself and why?
The three words I would use to describe myself would be giddy, mysterious and passionate.
Giddy because I am usually a very happy person, spend a lot of my life laughing and I get so excited at the most smallest of things.
Mysterious because I keep a lot back, not everyone knows everything about me. It takes a lot for me to open up about numerous things whether that is serious things or stupid things. I do not feel the need to share everything and I guess that could be described as being quite mysterious?
Passionate because things I am passionate about I really put my heart and soul into it. When something means a lot to me I will become incredibly passionate about it.
What is your biggest flaw?
Can I have two biggest flaws? Haha! It is between overthinking and the need for reassurance. I’d say those two can really affect not only my life but others. The two come together as well unfortunately. All it takes is for someone to word something slightly different or say something in an ‘okayish’ way and my head is like BAM throwing questions around, why did they say that? Did I say something that upset them? I don’t understand why they did that, is it me?
Then after the ordeal of overthinking I seek for the reassurance that everything is okay. I annoyed my friends when I was at school with it. They’d come round to my house and I would ALWAYS be asking them if they were okay, if they were bored, questioning the fact that would they tell me if they were bored? Are they enjoying playing the game we are playing? Am I being annoying? It’s horrible really.
What is your greatest strength?
My greatest strength would be being compassionate and empathetic towards others. I am a very sensitive soul and I have a lot of time for others. I‘m a very understanding person and I feel for others probably far more than I do myself. I just like to make others okay and happy.
What is your best childhood memory?
I have such happy childhood memories with my mum and brother to the point where it is hard to actually pin-point one in particular. Growing up with my big bro was ace because he made me laugh all the time, he didn’t even have to try to be funny! One of my favourite times has to be when I was about 5, my bro will have been 7. It was Christmas time and we were giddy!
To tire us out we decided that all three of us would try make the alphabet out of ourselves on the bed. We didn’t get that far into the alphabet when we heard what we thought was ‘jingles’. Whatever it was, even to this day I swear we heard them! So my mum was like “Santa is watching!!” and all three of us pretended to sleep little giggles occurring. That memory makes me really smile!
Where do you envision your blog in 5 years?
In terms of my blog, I would like to think in 5 years time that I can see how much progression has been made with myself and mental health. I rarely look back at my old posts but perhaps I will in 5 years time just to see the difference. It’d be nice if my blog gained more followers but as long as it can help others and raise awareness for important issues/topics then that is all I can wish for.
Where do you see the mental health community in 5 years?
In five years time I can truly envision the mental health community to be a lot stronger and bold together. The community is already making such a big difference and we have barely just begun.
I’ve noticed that there are so many kind and warm hearted people in the mental health community who are for working together to make a change as opposed to fighting against others to ‘be the best’. That’s really nice to see.
So, in five years I can see it just becoming stronger, a lot stronger and I can see that hopefully within that time the stigma for mental health will be dramatically reduced.
Who do you follow to stay updated on all things blogging and/or mental health? Share their links below!
Some of the bloggers and mental health related things I like to follow in order to stay updated on good, interesting stuff are these cool people!
@Justagirl2017x on twitter, her blog is just so true to herself, real and in some cases a hard read at times but she’s damn good. Like me, she was an anonymous soul when I first came across her but she has grown so much in herself that she’s out there for who she is and she truly deserves that! Her blog is: justagirl.emyspot.com
fracturedfaithblog.com posts about a range of things, mental health, family, life, books etc. PLUS they post so frequently! I find it hard to catch up sometimes but I quite like that because on a night I can read through several and it is always so interesting! Full admiration for the content they constantly put out!
@Poley34 on twitter, dude knows his stuff! Very intelligent and he’s considering making a mental health podcast which I think he should really do! We are very similar in terms of understanding of each other and he has excellent reasoning.
More people to follow
I’ll list the other of my favourites because I could be here a while waffling on at how I adore reading what these people put out there for the world! You can find their blogs etc through their twitters; @OCDUK, @jamesjammcmahon, @TheOCDfight, @LilyBaileyUK, @MenTalkMonday, @TreatYoBrain, @_FoggyFibro_, @thelistener1970, @meds_meltdowns_ and of course you, Jen!
I’m sure I’ve probably missed some out but there’s some really good people out there who I follow so delve into my following and you’ll come across so many!
About the Author
You can find Keets here:
Thanks, Keets, for participating in my interview series, Meet the Blogger! I loved your responses, and I truly appreciate you taking the time out to answer my questions. Best wishes on all your blogging endeavors!
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