How to get a more positive outlook in only 30 days

Are you looking to get a more positive attitude?

Are you drowning in negativity?

How do you talk to yourself? How do you talk about yourself?

A couple of years ago, I started trying positive affirmations. I was really skeptical at first, not gonna lie. It reminded me of those motivational cassette tapes people used to listen to on their drive to work.

Now, years later, I truly believe they work.

Did you know that your brain is incredibly elastic? It is not easy, and it takes dedication, but with time, your brain will believe the things you tell it. Crazy, right?

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What are positive affirmations?

Positive affirmations are:

…positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often, and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes.

They have a lot of really amazing benefits for your mind! According to the above article, regular positive affirmations can help improve:

  • Stress levels
  • Work performance
  • Mood issues, like depression

They really are key for a happy healthy brain, and should be practiced daily.

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A little about me

I have struggled with low self esteem for as long as I can remember. In high school, I struggled a lot with loneliness. I didn’t really have a lot of friends. We had just moved to a new school district, and I missed my old friends.

College was when my bipolar symptoms began to present and that came with its own set of challenges. I was very insecure about the way my brain was treating my body, and didn’t know how to deal with it.

After I got married, and had our first child, I became plagued with body image issues. My body looked like the body of someone who had just had a baby, but my brain was telling me that was not good enough. That I was capable of more.

Pretty much my entire life I have wondered, What if I was prettier, or smarter, or wasn’t bipolar, or more in shape? What if I was a better wife or friend or mother?

These thoughts have poisoned my outlook on life for decades and I finally decided to do something about it.

What can you do to be positive?

The easiest way to get started with a more positive outlook is to write down these negative things you think about yourself.

  • I’m not pretty enough
  • I don’t like my body
  • I’m not a good wife
  • I’m not a good mother
  • My mental illness makes me unlovable
  • I wish I was smarter
  • Why can’t I get my emotions under control?

It is difficult to put on paper, so to speak. After all, these thoughts remind us of the things we feel most insecure about. However, it is necessary to acknowledge these deeply ingrained thoughts before you can change them. You have to adequately say goodbye to them, like they are an old friend.

Next, write a 2nd list with NEW affirmations that you will say to yourself on a daily basis.

  • I am beautiful the way I am
  • My body has done wonderful things
  • I am a good wife
  • My children love me and I do my best
  • Despite my mental illness, I am very loved
  • I am smart and capable
  • I am working daily to control my emotions

Tape these affirmations on your bathroom mirror, and repeat them every morning when you wake up. Then, crumble up that old list and throw it away. (Or burn it if you want to really send a message to your brain.)

What’s next?

If you REALLY want to send a message to your brain that enough is enough, you need to up your self care game.

I saw a great post recently about creating a “self care box” for yourself, and I thought it was a fantastic idea. Basically, you gather supplies that will make you feel better when you are having a bad day. What can you put in it?

  • A pair of fuzzy socks
  • Your favorite nail polish
  • A good book
  • A bag of delicious chocolate
  • A crossword puzzle book
  • Affirmations cards

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Also, I always recommend a purchasing a good journal for anyone struggling with negativity and self worth. It feels so incredible to get your thoughts down on paper. Writing is:

  • Pleasurable
  • Cathartic
  • Freeing
  • Powerful

These are all feelings we need to feel if we want to eventually live a more emotionally complete life. Make it a priority to write for 5 minutes a day to start. You can always work your way up from there.

Start Where You Are: A Journal for Self-Exploration

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Give positivity a try

Self care and positive affirmations are integral for mental health. We need to be taking time, daily if possible, for things that make us feel happy and warm and fuzzy inside.

When you are depressed, it can be hard to commit to this as a daily practice. Start with once a week. Write it on your calendar and treat it as an appointment with yourself. Once it becomes a habit to do it one time a week, you can increase it to two times, and go from there.

As I said in this post, the way you talk about yourself has a massive impact on your mental health. It can be hard to accept positivity as a solution when you are depressed, but it is something that is worth trying for everyone.

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Comment below and let me know: in what areas of your life do you struggle with negative thinking? Have you ever tried positive affirmations? When you’re done, make sure you share this post!

Give positive self talk a try. You will be amazed at the results!

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44 thoughts on “How to get a more positive outlook in only 30 days”

  1. I see myself as an optimist but I use lots of positive affirmations to start my day, my week and every new month. I’ll also try the self-care box because sometimes, no matter how positive you are, some negative moments creeps in.

  2. I know I need to do more positive affirmations. And I love the idea of a self care box, just a little pick me up helps everyone. I also thought about putting good words on post it notes on my mirror to read every morning. Like you are beautiful, you deserve more, go get them tiger. Something like that, really good read. Thanks for sharing!

  3. I’m going to try the crossword! I think concentrating on something else is a great help. I’ll try adding an affirmation to my planner. It’s got an area for what I should be grateful for, which is valuable, but not a help for self-esteem.

  4. I’ll be honest, I am totally one of those people that wrote off positive affirmations as ‘fluff’ for a long time. Luckily, I had a couple of friends that kept pushing me to try the idea and eventually I gave in. It’s amazing how much of a difference your thought patterns can have on your health and well-being, and positive affirmations are a great way to change them for the better!

  5. Whenever I feel low, I always put a smile on my face, and for whatever reason, that always helps me feel just that little bit better. I am the sort of person who does try to find the positive in any situation, but I have noticed that during this time things are getting a bit more difficult (the main struggle has been not seeing my boyfriend in over 3 months, which does suck but we decided that was the best thing). This is a brilliant post though, and couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. Thank you for sharing x

  6. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us in order to help us all understand our own mental health better. I strongly believe in the power of positive affirmations and positivity – it doesn’t solve all of your problems but it can help even the worst day feel a little bit brighter!

    1. Exactly! It might be just a little band-aid in some ways, but it really helps. Even if it doesn’t “work,” I think the act of trying to be kind to yourself is a huge step!

  7. I am actually a very positive person because I think about all the GREAT things I have in my life. Those make me honestly NOT able to complain!!! I look at the silver lining of everything. I was just born optimistic! 🙂

    1. That’s great! Sometimes I wonder if that’s true, nature vs nurture. it does seem like some people are just naturally positive. It’s interesting. Thanks for reading!

  8. What an amazing post with great ideas and tips. I have started keeping a gratitude journal and it really helps. It almost acts as my self care box. When I am having a bad day, I read through it. It makes a big difference.

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    Having a positive outlook towards our lives is indeed very important. It makes you feel happier. My mom read this post and she loves the idea to make a self care box. Thank you for sharing!

  10. Those positive affirmations are really helpful when we are low on self-worth. And I really loved the idea of creating a self-care box!! It sounds interesting and I might try that too!!
    Beautiful blog!!

  11. I appreciated this post so much. I have struggled with low confidence and social anxiety for all my life and even though reminders like these seem so simple, they are very much needed.

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