Taking Time For Each Other (Why You Need To Have Quality Time on a Regular Basis)

When was the last time you spent quality time with your spouse?

Not just running a couple quick errands, but actual time spent doing something meaningful.

Have you noticed that after having kids, your spouse is often the one most neglected? (Probably after you. Moms feel me on that!)

But it’s important to make the time. Your kids will eventually leave the nest, and if you neglect your relationship now, what will you be left with?

In this post, I am going to talk about why quality time matters, and give you some simple date night ideas that won’t cost that much money.

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Our quality time/adventure in Key West

This past week, my husband and I spent four days in Key West. He had the honor of officiating the wedding of his best friend of 25 years. The weather was beautiful. Hot, don’t get me wrong. But the sun was shining, and we had a couple nights of rain to cool us off when we needed it. We ate amazing food. We stayed out too late. Slept in. Held hands. Danced to music that made us feel young again.

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7 quick and affordable at home date night ideas

I wanted to share some simple ways to reconnect (if you can get your hands on a babysitter!) and a couple of book recommendations that I have read recently and loved.

  1. Spread a picnic blanket on the ground, make some sandwiches, grab a $4 Aldi bottle of wine, and enjoy a “fancy” dinner.
  2. Take turns watching an episode of each other’s show, especially if you aren’t particularly a fan of theirs.
  3. Spend time planning your next big vacation.
  4. Have fun cooking dinner and dessert together while listening to music.
  5. Turn a regular board game, like Battleship, into a drinking game.
  6. Break out Mario Kart or your old Wii and have fun playing against each other.
  7. Make a pillow fort and snuggle up in front of a movie with popcorn.

Two books I have really liked are How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn (This book was hilarious and oh so relatable!) and No More Fighting by Alicia Muñoz, LPC (a lot of really helpful info about communicating better. Click either image to snag a copy!

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Spend some time together ASAP.

All relationships need quality time like this. Even if it doesn’t involve dropping money on a tropical getaway. I wrote about this in a why you should put your marriage first a while back, and truly believe it is one of the best forms of self care, too.

Take care of your love. Nurture it. Flames don’t always burn indefinitely. They are threatened by wind, rain, and other elements. But if you protect it, and care for it, and sometimes, relight it, it can live forever.

Another important form of quality time worth mentioning is time with friends. That can be so hard to come by once kids enter the picture. This trip with friends was a great way to strengthen our bond and recharge our batteries. We’re all busy. Some of work full time. Some of us have kids. For some, both things are true. Some are married. Some are dating. Others are single. Life tries so hard to pull your group of friends in a billion different directions. Trips with friends bounce you back toward a central point and help you remember how much you truly have in common.

So, get away. Even just for a few days. The warm fuzzies you get from quality time with your partner, and with friends, are so worth it.

What was the last trip you took? Who did you go with? Let me know in the comments below, and make sure to share this post if you found it helpful!


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31 thoughts on “Taking Time For Each Other (Why You Need To Have Quality Time on a Regular Basis)”

    1. That is true too! I definitely need my space now and then, and so does he! Thanks for reading, and sharing that 🙂

  1. Ys, I completely agree. This is something my significant other and myself are working on. It’s truly important to spend quality time together to keep the bond alive. Thanks for sharing

  2. I couldn’t agree more. We still need to do something for our man even at our busiest days. Even a cup of coffee or just a simple kiss before he gets to work is a great thing to do. Just make him feel that he still exists. And great tips here. ☺

  3. It is very important to have quality time as a couple and I think with everything going on in the world, it has definitely been a challenge for many. This is some great information. Thanks for sharing.

  4. Making quality time for each other is a must! My husband and I try to make time for each other every day – even if it’s just watching a movie or TV show together.

  5. Oh yes! It’s something that we should work on. A date night at home it’s something that we really need, but with kids it’s not easy to organize!

    1. For sure. We’ve FINALLY got ours on a sleep schedule where we can manage a couple hours at night if we want to. Thanks for reading!

  6. Quality time with your spouse is so important, and most definitely one of the first things to go! I love your date suggestions, especially dusting off the wii. Thank you for sharing.

  7. I totally agree that quality time is vital in all relationships and it’s so important to make a conscious effort to spend time with your partner away from all the distractions. Thanks for sharing such great date night ideas.

  8. Quality time is so important. It needs to be more of a priority in my marriage. We do pretty well but could use more regularly scheduled date nights.

    1. Our kids are sanity-eating goblins lately so that takes up so much time in and of itself LOL. We’re trying to work on it again! Thanks for reading!

    1. Awesome! That sounds so fun. Our problem is we very very rarely agree on a show. So that’s something we’re working on 🙂 Thanks for reading!

    1. It really is. And it is so needed when you’re cooped up at home with kids more often. Thanks for reading!

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  10. Lovely post! I so agree! My partner and I really do need to work much harder on this. We don’t have children but life and work gets in the way just as much! Thank you for a great read x

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