What is OCD and how does it disrupt your life?

“It’s like being controlled by a puppeteer. Every time you try and just walk away he pulls you back. Are you sure the stove is off and everything is unplugged? Back up we go. Are you sure your hands are as clean as they can get? Back ya go. Are you sure the doors are securely locked? Back down we go. How many people have touched this object? Wash your hands again.” — Toni Neville

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Thank you to much to Ralph for submitting this guest post about a topic near and dear to me, but that I have never written about. What is OCD?

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America:

  • OCD affects 2.2 million adults, or 1.0% of the U.S. population.
  • OCD is equally common among men and women.

Obsessive compulsive disorder (also known as OCD) is a mental disorder, which wreaks havoc on a person’s life and relationships. In this post, we will discuss how it happens.

What is OCD?

OCD or obsessive compulsive disorder is a type of anxiety disorder where individuals have unwanted thoughts, worries, and disturbing images that compel them to do something repetitively.

A typical symptom of OCD includes checking if the main door of the house is locked even after you have checked it a few seconds before. You won’t be at peace even after your family members have verified it several times.

Another symptom of OCD involves the fear of getting contaminated by germs by using items that are not yours.

Some people feel the urge to keep things in a certain order at a specific place. They would ensure that the order doesn’t get disturbed anyhow.

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How can OCD disturb your life?

The effect of OCD on your life and relationships can be truly devastating. The series of obsessions and compulsions can waste a lot of your precious time and disrupt your family life. Here’s how it happens.

It may create physical damage or injury

People with OCD have a tremendous urge to do certain rituals at a particular time meticulously. They won’t relax until the ritual is complete with perfection. The mental pressure and exhaustion caused due to long-term rituals may lead to ulcers and cardiac problems. Washing hands several times a day can lead to skin problems. Washing hair (with a shampoo) everyday can damage the scalp and lead to harmful infections.

It may take a lot of time to complete a task

Most people with OCD are perfectionists. They are always worried about losing jobs or grades at school for not being able to complete a task properly. Be it a project at school or work, people with OCD are never able to complete it single-handedly. They always feel that something is wrong or some items aren’t properly placed. Hence, they are unable to finish a task most times.

It can make your personal relationships bitter

OCD symptoms have a very big adverse effect on personal relationships. These symptoms are enough to end a beautiful relationship with the loved ones. Family members often get angry due to certain rituals performed by the individual with OCD. Family members often don’t understand the reasons behind the compulsive behaviors. As such, they get angry with that person and stop interacting with him or her. They fail to understand the fact that the individual is not doing anything by choice.

OCD symptoms can put an end to a relationship in another way. An individual with OCD symptoms often feels that her partner is unfaithful. He suspects her partner is having a relationship with another person. The constant pressure of proving oneself as faithful becomes too taxing after some point. Evidence or logic is not enough to win the trust of the person with OCD. This can create permanent damage in a relationship.

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It may lead to loneliness and isolation

When you realize that your loved ones are suffering due to your uncontrollable unwanted thoughts and compulsive behavior but don’t know how to curb them, you feel crazy. You feel helpless and embarrassed. You feel ashamed and suffer from low-esteem. As a result, you tend to avoid interacting with people and that leads to isolation and loneliness.

OCD symptoms can make you feel isolated and lonely in another way. When you’re suffering from OCD, you have tremendous mental pressure for completing certain rituals. Now, some rituals are time-consuming. You feel exhausted (both physically and mentally) after completing the time-consuming ritual every day. Lack of time and exhaustion make it tough for you to mix with others. This leads to loneliness and isolation.

Isolation and loneliness may also happen due to some other reasons. For instance, a friend of mine didn’t allow anyone to use her bathrooms at any cost. She didn’t even allow her dad to use bathrooms even when he urgently needed to use the toilet. Everyone stopped visiting her house gradually. Even her dad avoided staying in her house. Due to her obsession with the cleanliness of bathrooms, she hardly stayed outside for a long period of time. She didn’t use the public bathroom due to her fear of getting contaminated with germs and catching urine infection. Everyone was pissed off and stopped interacting with her. This made her completely isolated and lonely.

What can you do?

If you’ve got OCD symptoms, then look for a good mental health clinic and consult a psychiatrist as soon as possible. Remember, when you have OCD, you’re not the only one who is suffering every day. Your family members, spouse, friends, and relatives suffer along with you. This can create resentment among them.

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Do you want this illness to control your life? If not, then get help from a psychiatrist and a therapist. The psychiatrist can prescribe the medicines that can help to control your obsessions and compulsions. On the other hand, a therapist can give you and your family members the right therapy to combat the situations. Usually, cognitive behavioral therapy, exposure therapy, habit reversal therapy, and imaginal therapy are used to reduce OCD symptoms. These therapies can help you to resist compulsions and lead a normal life.

About the Author

Ralph Macey works with an upscale psychiatric facility.  His work involves removing the social stigma associated with chronic mental disorders like schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, dementia, ADHD, depression, loneliness, PTSD, etc. His work focuses on the integrated interventions to improve mental health and the alternative approaches to healing.

Editor’s note: OCD is so hard to live with. I grew up with a loved one who suffered from it and I saw how hard it was, while also being affected with it myself. Just understand that if you suffer from these symptoms: It is not your fault, and there is help out there.

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27 thoughts on “What is OCD and how does it disrupt your life?”

  1. I haven’t really dealt with a personal relationship with someone who has ocd. I know I am a bit of a perfectionist but I don’t let it get out of control. As someone with health issues, I feel that it is important for a spouse or significant other to go to a dr visit together and give them a chance to ask questions. This team approach should help resolve some of the conflict especially if the other person is relying on information found on the internet.

  2. OCD must be exhausting. It was interesting to read more about it. Two of my acquaintances just broke up because he has OCD and the strain was too much for their relationship. She wanted more adventures and he couldn’t go on them. I am hoping that he gets more help and that they can work it out, or alternatively, both find the perfect partner they need.

  3. I can’t imagine what it must be like to be OCD and have to keep on top of the rituals and doing things, I can imagine it really impacts peoples life and it is such a shame people use it to say oh today I’m so OCD.

  4. I have the check locked doors and windows issue. I finally cured myself of the window thing, by spending months convincing myself that we haven’t opened them therefore they are still locked, but that front and back door? OMG, I get into this repetitive cycle of checking it. I giggle at myself when I realize I’m doing it and hubs doesn’t bother me about it because that’s just something “I do”.

    1. Hey Brandy, it’s gotta be tough to feel that level of anxiety about it. Hopefully you can find some ways to cope. Take care of yourself, and thanks for reading!

  5. Pam Wattenbarger

    My daughter has OCD. You wouldn’t believe the number of times she had to check the back door each night just to make sure they were locked, among other things. She is getting therapy now. It has helped.

    1. Hey Pam, that’s great! My dad is a recovered/recovering lock checker. It’s such a hard way to live. I’m so glad the therapy has been helping. Thanks for reading!

  6. Thank you for sharing this Jen. OCD is a horrible thing to have to deal with. Mine is always worst when my eating disorder is worse. It’s like I need to do something / not do something or the world will end.
    Sending you much love xx

    1. I remember feeling so sad watching my dad go through it. That makes sense, about your eating disorder. Hoping you’re well, and seding hugs your way!

  7. Thank you so much for sharing, this was incredibly relatable. In particular the effects it can have on personal relationships – I’ve lost friends through my OCD and at times my relationship with my husband goes through some tough moments because of my obsessive thoughts, most recently I lost it because he was going to a friends house and a person in their family had a cold. It created a massive argument but I felt so silly at the end of it. I find that OCD also makes me so much less tolerant of people who don’t cover their mouths when they cough, don’t wash their hands after using the toilet etc. Obviously it’s not the end of the world or a serious crime, but it instantly fills me with irrational rage! Thank you for shedding some light on a disorder that’s still highly misunderstood. X

    1. It’s definitely misunderstood or seen as like some sort of caricature, when it’s a very real debilitating illness. Thanks so much for sharing a bit about your struggle! I’m sure that will resonate with people.

    2. Hello, Amy thanks for sharing your experience. Its feels very bad to know that you lost your friends. Yes its effects a lot to your life and relationship. But I am glad to know that you are overcoming it and looking towards a happy future.

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