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Inspiring Words For Self Love + 10 Simple Self Love Tips You Can Try Today

Do you feel like self love is hard to come by?

2020 has really done a number on us. Between a global pandemic, school closing, people being out of work, and financial stress, it has been the worst year I can personally remember.

When things like this happen, it’s so easy to get lost in managing chaos that we forget to care for ourselves. I have needed to be way more intentional lately about my self care, and I know I’m not alone.

Self love is a really critical component of your mental health. Every time you go on a plane, they tell you that in case of an emergency, put on your own oxygen mask before helping someone else.

Or, as my therapist tells me frequently, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Let my guest poster Trishna’s words for self love inspire you to show yourself more love on a daily basis. She is going to discuss what self love is, why it’s important, and give you 10 self love exercises you can try today.

Also, I am not a doctor or mental health professional. Just someone who has lived with depression and anxiety for many years who is passionate about sharing her experiences and tips for success. If you are in crisis call your doctor, then click here for some good mental health resources.

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What is self love?

“Self-love, self-respect, self-worth: There’s a reason they all start with ‘self.’ You can’t find them in anyone else.” -Unknown Share on Twitter

Self-love is such popular term these days that it gets tossed around in normal conversation in various forms:

  • “You have to love yourself more.”
  • “Why don’t you love yourself?”
  • “If you only loved yourself, this wouldn’t have happened to you.”
  • “You can’t love another person until you love yourself first.”

These are just a few of the self-love directives we give or suggest in order live a more fulfilled life.

Self-love is important to living well. It influences who you pick for a mate, the image you project at work, and how you cope with the problems in your life. It is so important to your welfare in order to know how to bring more of it into your life.

What is self-love? Is it something you can obtain through a vanity makeover or new clothes? Can you get more of it by reading something inspirational? Or, can a new relationship make you love yourself more?

The answer to all of these questions is a big NO. Although they feel good and are absolutely gratifying, you can’t grow in self-love through such activities.

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Helpful words for self love

Self-love is not simply a state of feeling good. It is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological, and even spiritual growth.

Self-love is so dynamic. It grows through actions that mature us. When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, we begin to accept our weaknesses as well as our strengths in a much better way. We have lesser need to explain our shortcomings, and have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning. We are more centred in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfilment through our own efforts.

If you choose just one or two of these self-love actions below to work on, you will definitely begin to accept and love yourself far more. Just imagine how much you’ll appreciate you when you exercise the 10 steps to self-love.

It is true that you can only love a person as much as you love yourself. If you exercise all of the actions of self-love that I describe in this article, you will allow and encourage others to express themselves in the same way.

The more self-love you have for yourself, the better prepared you are for healthy relationships. Even more, you will start to attract people and circumstances to you that better support your well-being.

As Oscar Wilde once said, “to love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”

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Why self-love is important and how to cultivate it

For many people, the concept of self-love might conjure images of tree-hugging hippies or cheesy self-help books. But, as many psychological studies attest, self-love and self-compassion are the key for mental health and well-being. They keep depression and anxiety at bay.

Self-compassion is a way of relating to yourself that does not involve harshly judging or punishing yourself for every mistake you make, or every time someone does better than you. Self-compassion shows that it is associated with:

  • Less anxiety and depression
  • More optimism
  • Better recovery from stress
  • Better adherence to healthy behaviour changes, such as exercise or diet

10 simple self love exercises

To become more self-compassionate yourself and shower yourself with self-love, try to follow these 10 steps:

1. Practice superb self-care.

  • Get enough sleep to feel revitalized
  • Attend a yoga class or go for a run
  • Fill your fridge with healthy whole foods
  • Drink plenty of water
  • Schedule in time for fun, adventure or relaxation.

Value yourself enough to make self-care practices a regular part of your routine.

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2. Recognize that you are experiencing an emotional distress or even mental suffering.

Adopt a mindful attitude in which you deliberately pay attention to your inner experience so that you can notice when you are beginning to shift into a negative state.

3. Accept completely that the feeling is there.

Make a conscious decision to sit with whatever negative feeling is there and try to accept it. If it’s a negative thought, look for the underlying emotion (anxiety, sadness, or anger), or scan your body to see where you feel tension or discomfort. You may feel it in your chest, belly, shoulders, throat, face, jaw, or other areas.

4. Make use of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).

This is a healing tool where you tap on specific parts of your body while repeating a mantra or affirmation. If you’re feeling anxious or self-critical about a particular issue or problem, you can use EFT to release your negative emotional energy and re-establish inner calm and peace.

Use the mantra, “Even though I (insert your problem), I deeply and completely love and accept myself”.

5. Imagine what you will feel if you saw a loved one experiencing this feeling.

In your mind’s eye, imagine your loved one being scared or sad or feeling bad about themselves. Then think about what you might feel. Perhaps you would feel the urge to help or comfort them. Try to direct this compassionate mindset toward yourself.

6. Challenge the negative story you have about yourself.

If you can’t feel compassion for yourself because you feel undeserving or “bad,” try to think about this as an old story. Notice the old story of why you are bad. Now find a way to challenge this interpretation. Perhaps you experienced past trauma, or you were caught in a stressful situation then. Now make a commitment to try to learn from the experience, rather than beat yourself up with it/ over it.

7. Think about how almost everybody messes up sometimes.

It’s tempting to think that you are uniquely messed up, while everyone else is a paragon of virtue. In fact, even the most successful people make serious mistakes. But making a mistake doesn’t undo all of your accomplishments and successes. We’re all works in progress.

8. Work on and decide what it would take to forgive yourself.

If your behaviour hurt you or another person, ask yourself what it would take to forgive yourself. Think about whether you want to apologize and make amends to the person you hurt. If you hurt yourself through addictive behaviour, avoidance, ruining relationships, or otherwise behaving unwisely, make a coping plan for the next time you are in a similar situation so that you can begin to act differently.

9. Be your own life coach.

Rather than punishing yourself with negative thoughts, gently guide yourself in a positive direction. You may ask yourself what led to the destructive behaviour, whether it’s really what you want to be doing, and what the consequences are. Tell yourself that you have other choices, and it’s never too late to change.

10. Keep in mind the common humanity you share with everyone.

There is a common myth in our society that there is such a thing as ‘perfect’ and we should all strive to be it. The truth is we are all human, flawed and prone to making mistakes as we navigate the world and learn and grow from our experiences.

Realize you’re not the only one who feels vulnerable, insecure and self-critical at times. We’re all fighting our own demons and trying to do our best. By remembering your common humanity, you immediately take the pressure off yourself and no longer feel so isolated and alone.

Give these self love tips a try.

Self-love is the prerequisite for complete immersion in the abundant flow of light and love in the world around us. Self-love is a journey. It takes dedication, devotion, and practice. Resolve to love yourself each and every day and watch your best self blossom and your greatest life unfold! After all, self-love is an exponential force.

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha

Do you struggle with self love? Let us know in the comments so we can show support! And also, please share this post on social media if you found it helpful. You never know who might need to read it.

Make self love a priority today!

About the Author

Trishna Patnaik, a BSC (in Life Sciences) and MBA (in Marketing) by qualification but an artist by choice. A self-taught artist based in Mumbai, Trishna has been practising art for over 14 years now. After she had a professional stint in various reputable corporations, she realised that she wanted to do something more meaningful. She found her true calling in her passion, that is painting.

Trishna is now a full-time professional painter pursuing her passion to create and explore to the fullest. She says, “It’s a road less traveled but a journey that I look forward to everyday.” Trishna also conducts painting workshops across Mumbai and other metropolitan cities of India. Trishna is an art therapist and healer too. She works with clients on a one on one basis in Mumbai.

Trishna does fancy the art of creative writing and is dappling her hands in that too. She loves to soak in the experience and have an engagement with readers, wanderers, and thinkers.

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42 thoughts on “Inspiring Words For Self Love + 10 Simple Self Love Tips You Can Try Today”

  1. Such a lovely post! It’s so important to place emphasis on self-love. I know the minute things go wrong, I tend to blame myself and before long my anxiety spirals. I try to keep a check on my emotions through journaling to try to incorporate kindness into my daily routine – I try anyway! x
    Helen | http://www.whathelenloves.com

    1. Well, sometimes the effort is just as important! It tells your brain it’s worth doing. Hang in there, and thanks for reading!

  2. These are really great tips. I guess I didn’t realize what self-love was until I read this. It takes intentionality to find appreciation for ourselves!

  3. I do feel that self love can be difficult. I think it’s extremely important though. I loved reading through this post. You have some really good advice in here.

  4. Self love is so important and I believe this is why people often struggle to love others. I love the affirming words you gave us and hope that people can really care for themselves so that we can see the changes we want to see in the world.

  5. This is something I need to work on! I have a habit of focusing on everyone else so I don’t need to think about myself at all.

  6. I love the idea about being your own self coach! I have never heard of EFT before and I am going to look into that. I am so glad this wasn’t telling me to just go take a nice hot bubble bath because self care is much deeper than that. Love this!

    1. Definitely! Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my baths, but self care is a lifestyle, not just one thing. Thanks for reading!

  7. Loved your post. I have a family member who struggles with anxiety and depression. She sees a counselor but sometimes I just don’t know what to say or how to help. This article offers much-needed guidance. For starters, her diet is awful and I’m going to try to inspire her to eat better with some of my smoothie recipes and delicious Buddha bowls.

    1. A healthy diet is definitely a great way to care for yourself! Definitely pass this along to her. Thanks for reading!

  8. What a lovely post, self-love and care is a definite thing to always prioritize! I’ve been trying out self-affirmations as of last night, I’ve been saying in the mirror “I’m stepping into the most successful part of my life” 5x!

  9. This is a lovely post. True self-love is a lot more difficult than people realize (and yes, even I used to imagine tree-hugging hippies whenever anyone talked about it). These are some really wonderful, useful, and actionable steps to take towards self-love. I especially like the idea of challenging negative stories about yourself. I tend to feel bad or embarrassed for not sticking up for myself…but I’m starting to question why I feel bad about that, and not put the blame on the person who was mean or rude to me. Surely the latter is worse! Great post. Trishna seems like an incredibly wise and interesting person.

    1. She definitely has a lot of wisdom to share. I’m glad you got something meaningful out of the post. Thanks for reading!

  10. Good tips. I love the idea of considering what we would say to a loved one experiencing the same situation. Far too often we give everything we have to care for our friends and family, but we don’t give that same level of love to ourselves. Instead, we allow ourselves to engage in negative self-talk, tear ourselves down and treat ourselves like garbage.

    1. So true! I am guilty of it myself. Pouring from an empty cup. That’s why self love matters so much. Thanks for reading!

  11. I’m better than I was, but I still need to get a lot better with the self love, especially the consistency of it. Too often I slip back into old negative habits.

  12. These are some really great advice! I like number 8 a lot, we have a tendency to forgive other people but are so hard on ourselves. I think many of us need to work on learning to forgive ourselves.

    1. I definitely agree! I’m working on this in therapy right now and it’s a daily effort. Thanks for reading!

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